Love, Jealousy Or Compersion

” I crave a love so deep the ocean would be jealous ” – Rumi

We often think that love and Jealousy go together in a relationship. If you really love someone then you will surely feel jealous to see that person in love with another. This feeling of jealousy is present in all type of relationship like parents and children, siblings, best friends, and most importantly among romantic partners. But there is a difference in terms of jealousy between romantic partners from the rest of other relationships.

I think in a romantic relationship a person feels more attached to the opposite partner not only mentally but also physically, so when any of the partners shows love interest outside, the other partner fears to lose both mental and physical confidence within himself or herself. He or she doubts his or her ability to keep the love alive. In such conditions, they start feeling jealous of seeing their partner showing love interest outside their relationship.

But is it possible to feel compersion to see your partners metamour?

Compersion is the feeling of joy associated with seeing a loved one love another. I think in most of our relationship other than the amorous one we feel Compersion. The percentage of jealousy is lesser in other relationships compared to a romantic one.

Now the question is how can we develop compersion in a romantic relationship?

I think it is difficult to accept the fact that the person you love is romantically in love with another particularly if they had a healthy relationship of love and trust. In such cases, if love goes on trust is never going to be the same as before. A person might act to be happy to see their partner happy with someone but in reality, deep down in their heart, they cannot. It is only possible in two conditions, firstly if they too have got someone to reduce that gap of emptiness, since I think one cannot replace another person in life and secondly if he or she never had strong feelings for that person or too wanted to end that love lost relationship.

Yes I do agree and think compersion is far better and healthy than that of jealousy, but at the same time, it makes any romantic relationship more fragile. Therefore what I suggest is to have a middle range disposition between jealousy and compersion to balance ones love life.

Β© Anushka Ghosh
Lovestruck # @satire β™‘β™‘

20 thoughts on “Love, Jealousy Or Compersion

  1. Anushka, I wonder how this piece would read if you had been involved in a relationship that allowed for compersion and also the people involved didn’t experience any jealousy. I feel like your critique of that type of relationship means you have only had a monogamous one. Am I correct?

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    1. Susi , You are absolutely right. Here I have mainly focused on relationships where monogamy is largely appreciated and the scope of Compersion does not come at once. The feeling of Compersion might be much easier for those societies where polygamy is practiced , but still we cannot ignore the fact that jealousy might even present in polygamy even apparently it is not visible .
      Thank you for you valuable feedback. 😊😊

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      1. I don’t mean to minimize there may be some jealousy but I think that people in polyamory accept jealousy could be a complication and apply a higher standard of understanding as to why it’s occurring. It doesn’t take away anything from the relationships when honest discussion and resolution occurs. In addition, once an understanding lands and resolves it, the likelihood of future might not even erupt when it’s replaced with trust. In fact, I think it actually strengthens those types of relationships where jealousy is generally not dealt with appropriately in monogamous relationships. Thanks for the discussion!

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